Become Your Own Hero: How To Forgive Yourself And Turn Your Life Around.

BECOME YOUR OWN HERO: FORGIVE YOURSELF AND TURN YOUR LIFE AROUND TODAY.

 Ever so often in life,we tend to fall short of expectations we have of ourselves. Sometimes its our doing,other times, it feels like its out of our hands.

As humans we are not infallible, and when we fail or become overcome by our weaknesses, others tend to see us in a different light.

Opinions others may have of us, where once we were regarded in high esteem can vanish in a cloud of smoke and it hurts.

We feel exposed,we feel small. Despondency is our lot.

We look over our actions with regret.

Oh what we wouldn't give to do it all over again.

Sadly, Time cannot be reversed otherwise so many things we have gone or put others through would've been avoided.

What then can we do, overcome with tremendous shame and regret. Can we ever make it right?

There is no quick easy solution to be given, the only remedy for our misery can be found on the path to find peace, where we come to terms with our inadequacies and failures. 

While accepting that we have failed or done wrong brings us to experience sadness,regret and other uncomfortable feelings.

We see that wallowing in the valley of self-pity and self doubt.

Being ruled by the low opinions others form of us will not only prevent us from moving forward and becoming better people but prevent us from letting go of our mistakes. Robbing us from looking at the experience as a lesson,where we can take the proper steps to prevent a future reoccurrence.

What terrible thing have you done or let happen to you?

Are you willing to have the courage to forgive yourself for it?

Would you want a chance to be a better person all the more for your failure?

Confront your silent demon of shame, understand that you are mere mortal and are prone to mistakes and weaknesses. 

Apologise where you can, and for where you cannot learn to let go.

Make the best out of the experience and use it to help others, maybe offering helpful advice where you see someone struggling or an offer of support just because you understand.

If you are going through shame, having someone that understands is one of the first steps to getting up again.

Next step is encouragement to keep going on the path of rehabilitation, if you stand alone. Be your own hero. Believe in yourself, you will overcome this and be happy again.

Take small steps to boost your confidence, whether its doing things that make you feel you're helping others or improving a life. Even learning a skill, the feelings that come with each small success will challenge any feelings of failure and low self esteem you might have.

You will begin to see yourself in a different light, and you will feel stronger.

Finally,don't take all that people say as the last word. People tend to criticise and judge harshly when others mess up.

Its a terrible trait which humans exhibit where passing judgement on others makes them feel better about themselves even though are likely to make a similar mistake in future.

Try not to dwell too hard on negative words and disappointed stares.  

Let them be the force that drives you to become a better,stronger you. 

There are better days ahead.Learn to smile again!

''What's Wrong With Me?". Have You Been Having Feeling Down Lately?

          ''WHAT'S WRONG WITH ME?'' 

Symptoms of Depression& How To Deal.

 If you've had a persistent moody feeling for more than 2 weeks,its likely you're suffering from depression.

Being depressed is more than just being sad or feeling blue though. Depression is a serious illness that often goes undiagnosed.

 According to WHO(World Health Organisation), depression is the most common illness affecting over 300 million people worldwide.

Women, the most affected have better coping methods as they are more likely to discuss their feelings with a loved one and seek help compared to the male counterparts that might have difficulty opening up to others.

Depression also affects children and adolescents manifesting itself in symptoms like anger, being irritable,feeling worthless,loss of appetite, suicidal thoughts and social withdrawal.

One thing to note however is that in going through life's experiences; getting rejected,losing a loved one, getting divorced,facing a midlife crisis can predispose an individual to depression.

For me as a teenager, it was being bullied.
Outside the safety net of loved ones,people tend to prey on those they perceive as weak.
It was a new school. I was small for my age and really shy. It seemed being good at academics got me unwanted attention that only led to trouble.

Taunted and teased by those tagged as ''popular''. It was only a matter of time before I found that all the exuberance that came with my age shriveled and died.

Suddenly communicating with others became a mess of mumbled words and anxiousness.

I felt worthless and depressed when I was alone.But I would always put on masks in front of everyone else.

School was my prison and only my books understood me.I lost myself in them.

At home,my eating habits suffered.My mom didn't understand.

 I couldn't go anywhere alone because I was scared I would be cornered.

Every side conversation and laughter I heard,my mind would turn on me. Mocking me.

Hiding inside myself was the only way I could cope. It was there I learnt to express myself on paper. 

Never being judged, well as much as I would in a personal conversation anyway.

It took years of self reinvention and close knit friendships to pull myself out of the dark hole I was in.

Looking back, I realise now it was only feelings of inadequacy that could prompt them to do all they did but my young ignorant self had to go through so much emotional turmoil during those years.

As an adult, sometimes I still struggle with effects of the trauma that resurface now and then.

Now that I am older and wiser, I see that growing up in a home without a father figure made me predisposed to accepting  less than acceptable comments about myself because of feelings of unworthiness.

 I can forgive and stand up for myself and be the better for it.

 Emotionally, It has made me gentler and more understanding with others going through difficulty.

If you're suffering from depression,even as an adult; I suggest you do not keep the problem to yourself but try to talk about it to maybe your pastor,or close friend. 

Someone you feel safe with. Or visit a qualified therapist to understand the root cause and how to treat it.

                                            Until Next Time.